Hey loves,
I want to share something really important today because it comes up so much in my work as a healer and emotional wellness coach. A lot of people think that when we face heavy, dark, or difficult energies, it’s those energies or even the people carrying them that bring us down. But let me tell you something: That’s not true.
Here’s what Father God has taught me: The best way to face those shadows or tough moments is with love. Always love. And, listen, if you ever feel like someone else’s emotions or energy is dragging you down, it’s not actually them doing it. What’s really happening is this: You’re bringing yourself down through the judgments you’re placing on them or their situation.
Let me explain.
Let’s say someone comes to you with their pain—they’re crying, venting, or just in a really heavy space—and you start to feel bad, overwhelmed, or drained. What’s really going on? It’s not their emotions pulling you down. It’s your judgment of their emotions. Maybe you’re thinking, “Oh, they’re being too dramatic,” or, “I wish they’d just be happy,” or even, “They shouldn’t have done that to get themselves in this mess.” All of that judgment is resistance, and it’s that resistance that feels so heavy, not the other person.
So here’s what I do instead:
1. Take Responsibility (Without Judging Yourself!)
Whenever I notice that I feel heavy around someone, I stop and check in with myself. I don’t blame them for how I’m feeling. Instead, I ask myself: “Is there something in me that’s resisting this moment?” Maybe I’m resisting their sadness, or I’m uncomfortable with the idea of letting them feel what they’re feeling. Sometimes it’s hard to face certain emotions because they’re emotions I haven’t fully accepted in myself.
But here’s the key: Don’t judge yourself for whatever comes up. Just observe it with love. It’s an opportunity for healing and growth, not self-blame.
2. Neutrality Is Your Best Friend
Before I sit with someone, I set the intention to meet them with neutrality. This means I’m not seeing their emotions as good or bad—I’m just letting them be. I allow their feelings to flow and hold space without judging them or trying to change anything.
Now, I’m not perfect, and sometimes my unconscious mind reacts. But when that happens, I just step back and notice it. “Oh, okay, something inside me is being triggered. What’s this about?” Again, no judgment, just curiosity and love for myself. It’s all part of the process.
3. Add Love (This Is the Game-Changer)
Once I’m in a neutral space, I take it one step further: I surround myself with love. I literally feel it radiating through me—high-frequency, unconditional love. And then I let that love flow out toward the other person.
You know what’s amazing? That love is exactly what they need. They don’t need fixing or judgment. They need love, understanding, and acceptance.
And here’s the beautiful part: When you hold that space of love for them, you’re also elevating yourself. You both feel lighter, freer, and more connected. It’s this incredible ripple effect of healing energy, and it feels so good.
So, the next time you feel like someone’s energy is “bringing you down,” remember: It’s not them. Look within, hold space without judgment, and bring love into the moment. I promise, it’ll transform the experience for both of you.
Sending you all my love,
Katiana
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